Rules for Visiting

Rules for Visiting

Book - 2019
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At forty, May Attaway is more at home with plants than people. Over the years, she's turned inward, finding pleasure in language, her work as a gardener, and keeping her neighbors at arm's length while keenly observing them. But when she is unexpectedly granted some leave from her job, May is inspired to reconnect with four once close friends. She knows they will never have a proper reunion, so she goes, one-by-one, to each of them. A student of the classics, May considers her journey a female Odyssey. What might the world have had if, instead of waiting, Penelope had set out on an adventure of her own?
Publisher: New York : Penguin Press, 2019
ISBN: 9780525559221
Branch Call Number: KAN
Characteristics: 289 pages ; 23 cm


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Oct 15, 2020

A very well written book. The etchings of trees before each chapter are charming as is the humor, which I appreciated.

BG had a good discussion, too.. It is an upbeat book without being sappy.
I highly recommend it for an interesting take on loneliness and visiting rules, with Amusing perceptions.

Feb 08, 2020

University gardener May is given a month of leave when a poem written about a yew tree in a campus garden wins a literary prize. Choosing to visit friends from her past, the book is filled with journeys, thoughts on friendship and remembrance—plus many thoughts on trees and gardening.

Short chapters move the narrative along, covering all kinds of topics, yet linked seamlessly, as introvert May blossoms a bit with every page of musing. Beautiful.

Jan 03, 2020

Midway through her fortieth year, May finds herself at a crossroad and decides to visit her four friends in order to see how her friends have settled into their lives so she might better settle into her own. She is a graduate of a Landscape architectural program, single, childless, living with her widowed father in the family home that has difficult family history attached to it, she has a suitcase called Grendel of Beowulf fame, she is somewhat reclusive. We learn a lot about trees and plants, she is a lover of word and their original meanings, she coins the twitter handle fortnight friends although she eschews social media. This is a charming thoughtful book.

Dec 18, 2019

I loved the plant descriptions in this book. I found the main character, May uncomfortable to be around, but I loved how brave she was to visit her friends and how she grew and changed over the year. It’s a heartwarming story and although I found it hard to get into in the end I loved it.

Dec 14, 2019

Oprah Winfrey best book list 2019

JessicaGma Oct 17, 2019

I think I liked the plant descriptions over some of her friends, but it's a nice gentle sort of read for a cozy weekend.

Sep 12, 2019

A book about friendship with an adorably awkward main character. This was a feel good book
and a really pleasant and relaxing read.


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Jun 21, 2021

Reclusive gardener May wins a month of vacation and is inspired by her love of classic literature & gardening to embark on an odyssey to reconnect with four once-close friends. Sketches of trees.

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